Oct 30, 2019
In Episode #43 of ADHD for Smart Ass Women, Tracy speaks with the delightful Megan Margaret Burlingame. Megan is 34 years old, a wife and the mother of two very busy boys. Throughout her childhood, Megan struggled mightily with her ADHD but is clear about the fact that her struggles also led her to discover her Superpowers.
Today Megan lives in Arlington, WA where she works with cities, counties and government agencies to advise them on zoning and legal land issues. In her free time, she operates a small flower farm where she also grows a large variety of organic heirloom tomatoes.
Tracy invited Megan to her podcast after she posted this response to another member (of her Facebook group) who said she was having trouble seeing anything positive about her ADHD.
“The more I educate myself about it, the more I realize that it makes me who I am. I am so so good with people, I understand their natures and moods. Sometimes it is like a wave of emotions that hit me when I enter a room and, while inconvenient, let's me see the true nature of people. I am also much more empathetic because of how much I was picked on for skipping around school constantly, saying the wrong things, laughing too loud, etc. I love to root for the underdog and think that cruelty from others for any reason is horrendous. In a crisis or when someone is swamped with work, I can jump in and formulate a plan, execute it with a maniacal glee, and excel beyond my peers. I am ALWAYS thinking, I constantly have ideas. This is challenging but once I make up my mind that I want something... want it enough anyway, there is no stopping me. I love to fail, it is like a challenge. My husband says, he learned a long time ago not to tell me that I "couldn't do something" and he is right because I will want to do it, even if I had no interest in it before, and then I will 95% of the time prove him wrong in the process and succeed. I am fiercely loyal, to a fault even. I love what I love and I love who I love fiercely. These are all things I attribute to my ADHD and they are all wonderful. Yes, they are also a double-edged sword but so is every other personality type I think. I used to wish everything wasn't so hard but now I realize that I would not change it for the world because I have a lot of grit and I am a living example of someone who literally failed each grade through 10th grade until leaving tiny private schools that only taught for the neurotypical brain. I had a 3.3 GPA in running start, a community college program that got me within 4 classes of my AA by high school graduation, and 12 years later I earned my bachelors degree summa cum laude with a 3.95 GPA. It wasn't easy but I never gave up on my dreams either. There is a lot to be frustrated with indeed but much to rejoice in as well. We are not the same as the neurotypical but that is OK.”
Tracy and Megan talk about:
- How Megan got from failing ever grade through 10th grade to embracing her strengths.
- How important supportive adults/parents are given the 20K more negative messages ADHD kids hear by the time they’re 12.
- Megan’s revelation around taking medication
- Non-pharmacological workarounds
- Megan’s best advice to those who are struggling with their ADHD and/or are parents of children with ADHD
Resources:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q